”Call me a Feminist if you talk about equality, call me a Anti-Feminist if you prefer dominance.”
A word which have become a crusade against the Enormity and tyranny of society upon women. Why I blamed the society, not the men? Because it’s the dogma which have been wrong. We can’t eat raw rice, so we cook it but when it gets overcooked, it gets burn. The times are changing but it need to be stopped somewhere otherwise situation will get burn, it have already have started. I am not saying that there is no ‘raw rice’, still there are people who think woman are lower then man, still that belief is alive somewhere. Even if they know it’s not true, their vainglorious attitude don’t allow them to accept this fact.
If we talk about the crimes, rape is the fourth most common crime and large number of cases of Dowry , domestic violence and women harassment are recorded every year. The government have tried it’s best to provide rectitude to victims of such daunting offences but with the increase of this crimes, the number if false crimes are also increasing.
“oh my god! 24923 rapes in 2012 and 98% of them are committed by SOMEONE KNOWN BY VICTIM. These men they are turning into savages.” That’s what we all hear nowadays but there are many feminist communities which rise and show endorsement to whoever needs but what? Wait a second! “53.2% of rape cases were found to be false filed between April 2013 to July 2014 in Delhi,” says DCW (Delhi commission of women) and it should also be stated that acquittal rate in Delhi was 78% in 2013 which is 22% more then what was in 2012.This is not only about Delhi but in whole India special laws for welfare of women are misused. So what should we say now? Every men is not innocent. Yes, its true but providing a blind support to someone in the name of Feminism can lead to humiliation, misery and distress to innocent whose dignity and honour can never be restored.
Out of all Dowry cases 92610, in 10193 it were chicane but the man and his parents (if living with there son and daugther-in-law) can be put behind bars by just one FIR by accuser without having any proof against them under section 498A of IPC. Woman’s right activist have been vociferously opposed any amendments in it by giving argument that this law is strength that several economically dependent and helpless woman have against dowry harassment. But what about 10193 people and there families? This false accusations are actually a black spot and shame to sisterhood that there are women who use there power in this way and also get away with it. A true Feminist is one who try to find a way for women equality without trying to destory a candid person’s life. There is no laws made against male harassment but we know, it exist.
If we middle class urban citizens see around us, condition of women have improved significantly. If we talk about education 45.9% of total students applied for undergraduate programme are women, 40.5% of PHD students are women now. Development is there, country is advancing. Similarly, in corporate sectors, IT department and also in research field, women are contributing equally to men.
Why to be a Feminist if you have can work for development for everyone? There are not just females who are not educated, not just male who commit crimes against the opposite gender, even a child marriage is not just about a female, it obviously also have effect on a male. Yes she may move to a another house and not treated like a own family member but having a child and taking care of her wife becomes a responsibility at such a young age which leads to distress and confusion. So just don’t be a Feminist, be a person who is against child marriage, don’t just act and run when a female become a victim of harassment, be a person who is against harassment. Work against crime not against gender. It will not do anything more then dividing us.
‘I will open a door for girl, it’s my way of showing courtesy which she can feel in my care, she cooks for me, it’s her way of showing me her love which I can feel in her efforts.’ Making love with her or him, something which bounds you, not only she but also he can deny or accept doing it for his or her happiness respectively. Both have right to be possessive, right to know where she is and with whom if it’s unusual, both can provide equal space to each other.
There will always be something which we need to do for each other, we need each other, don’t make feminism, a war between gender.That’s all I want to say to every Feminist.
Man and woman are like day and night,
When they work together, they generate life.
A day alone will burn it,
and night alone will freeze it.
That’s why they rotate around each other,
Proving that they equally matter.